How to Make Sex Less Routine (and More Exciting)

Break out of the bedroom rut with creative ideas, communication tips, and ways to keep things fresh.

Introduction

It's normal for couples to fall into routines, especially when life gets busy. But routine doesn't have to mean boring! With a little creativity and open communication, you can reignite excitement and keep your sex life vibrant.

Why Routines Happen

• Busy schedules and stress
• Comfort and familiarity
• Fear of rejection or awkwardness
• Not knowing how to bring up new ideas

Creative Ways to Break the Routine

1. Try a new location. Change up your environment—think outside the bedroom!
2. Introduce a game or challenge. Use our Sexy Would You Rather or Best Communication Games.
3. Plan a surprise date night. Take turns planning something unexpected.
4. Explore fantasies together. Share something new you'd like to try (see our guide to sharing fantasies).
5. Change the pace. Slow things down or speed them up—variety is key!
6. Use sensory play. Experiment with touch, taste, sound, and scent.

Communication Tips

• Check in with your partner about what feels good and what you'd like to try.
• Be open to feedback and suggestions.
• Keep the mood light—laughter is a great aphrodisiac!

Real-Life Example

"We realized we always had sex on Saturday mornings. One week, I surprised my partner with a candlelit bath on a Wednesday night. It totally changed the vibe and made us both feel more adventurous!"

Conclusion

Breaking out of a routine doesn't require grand gestures—just a willingness to try something new together. Start small, stay curious, and enjoy the journey!