10 Questions to Ask Your Partner About Sex (That Actually Work)

The best questions to spark honest, sexy conversations and learn what your partner really wants in the bedroom.

Why Ask Questions?

Open-ended questions can help you and your partner connect, break the ice, and discover new desires. Here are 10 questions to get you started:

1. What's something you've always wanted to try in bed?
2. Is there a fantasy you'd like to share with me?
3. What's your favorite way for me to touch you?
4. Is there anything we haven't done that you're curious about?
5. How do you feel about trying something new together?
6. What makes you feel most desired?
7. Is there a sexy memory you think about often?
8. How can I make you feel more comfortable sharing your desires?
9. What's one thing you wish we did more often?
10. How do you like to be asked about your desires?

Use these questions as conversation starters, not interrogations. Listen, share, and enjoy the discoveries together!

For more inspiration, check out our Best Conversation Starters (Sex) page.